Breakup Tips


1. Avoid social media

Step into the shower. Scald away the slick of who you were, who he was on you—your bacteria, his. You are your own now.

Find a pen.

When you think of him, draw along your arms. When you hear his voice, press the nib to your throat: don’t speak don’t scroll don’t check don’t cry. Do not update. Press the black ink into your own body, and you can be anything, anything you want to seem to be. No one has to know. You are a book with no face.

... Read the rest here at AGNI

The Female Gaze

The female gaze:

1. Reclaiming the body and using it as a tool ... with the intention of using it to communicate a feeling- seeing.

2. Talking about how we become what men see ... my effect when I am seen -- the gazed gaze.

3. Returning the gaze -- daring to say 'I see you seeing me' ... 'I don't want to be the object any longer, I want to be the subject.'

The female gaze [is] a conscious effort to create empathy as a political tool. 

--Jill Solloway (TIFF, 2016)

Watch her incredible keynote address on THE FEMALE GAZE here

Cherry Brown Butter Bars

/ Next into the butter sugar melt went flour. 

When you’re fat, no one will pay attention to disordered eating or they will look the other way or they will look right through you. You get to hide in plain sight. I have hidden in plain sight, in one way or another, for most of my life. Willing myself to not do that anymore, willing myself to be seen, is difficult. /

Read the whole essay by Roxane Gay here